"I don't understand why I keep ending up here. I prayed the prayer. I meant it. I really meant it this time." I've heard some version of that sentence hundreds of times. And here's what I've learned: she wasn't lying. The problem was never her sincerity — it was the kind of relationship she'd been taught to have with God. This free guide walks through the 3 signs that tell you whether you're living an arranged faith (sincere, dutiful, exhausting) or a love match (renewed daily, by choice) — plus what to do about it.